When life gets crazy, we often forget all of the things we have to be grateful for. I can say that for me, this was never more true than after my twin girls were born earlier this year. They were born quite a bit early and it’s easy to get tunnel vision when you go through an experience like that.
Our beautiful girls, Georgia and Wynnie, were born on March 14, 2018 – eight weeks before their due date. It’s easy to get tunnel vision in a season of life in which you’re not exactly sure what each day is going to bring. My wife’s doctor was amazing, and in addition to all of the medical care she provided, she also introduced us to a practice called “Three Good Things” that we continue to do each night.
The concept is simple enough, and you can probably make a pretty accurate prediction as to what it entails based on the title of the exercise. Basically it goes like this:
- Before going to sleep each night, think of three positive moments or events that happened throughout your day.
- In addition, identify what made each moment powerful or positive.
- Ideally, you will write these down on paper, but you can also just do the exercise verbally.
- Finally, share your moments with your spouse out loud.
Here’s an example of my list a few weeks after the girls were born:
- “Had a blast on the car ride to the hospital with Kayla. I’ve grown to love the quality time we get to have together on these drives.”
- “Got to spend time playing basketball with Hudson in the basement. I love seeing his excitement when he makes a basket.”
- “Was able to hold both of my girls today. Their continued growth and improving health are huge answers to prayer.”
Kayla and I have done this most nights since the girls were born and it’s made a real difference in our mental states before going to bed. It’s also led to some great talks that have stemmed from what we wrote down. With three kids under three, it can sometimes feel like a nonstop grind from the time we wake up to the time we go to sleep, and Three Good Things has allowed us to be intentional about being grateful for what God has blessed us with. Beyond a positive mental state, research also shows that this practice can improve your sleep. Since we don’t really remember what a full night sleep feels like, I’ll just go ahead and trust that’s true!
What are your nightly routines? I’d love to read about them in the comments below.